Today is my middle child's birthday... and she is 10 years old. Time is relative I guess and while we're living it we don't really notice it flying by but when we reflect on it... well, even then when someone asks me "Does it feel like 10 years have gone by?" I can't honestly answer yes! Don't get me wrong, it's been great... but sometimes the great
times are over shadowed by those dark and hallowing
memories and it's then that I think that those people who whistfully reflect on the past 10 years are nuts when they have that whistful looking smile on their face. Raising a kid is hard and everyone always tells you to enjoy it while you can because before you know it they'll be grown up and have moved out. Those people are reflecting and what I think I'm figuring out is that when we are looking back and reflecting on our children's lives our memories have a buffer zone that hides the not-so-rainbows and unicorns moments and you have to think really hard to remember them. What I think we all need to know is that for those of us who are in the now, the reality of it is that it's okay not to enjoy every moment.
I remember one episode of Oprah where there were some Moms on the show and one of them was living in a bubble. She basically said that everything was always perfect in her life. You could hear people gasping and murmuring, a few even mocking and I think EVERY woman in that audience was scowling at her in disbelief... and there were quite a few who got up to the microphone and basically told her she was lying (she really did seem to be living in lala land because I don't know anyone who hasn't had a bad day since they had kids). I think we all need to realize that it's okay not to love your life all the time and even more so, it's okay if you're not perfect or super Mom or whatever you want to call it. THAT is reality.
Which leads me to MOMS. Moms Offering Moms Support. I've sat at a lot of tables over the past 4 years and guess what? Nobody is perfect and that is why I love MOMS. You can be honest and talk about the hard times in your life - no matter what they are - and you will never be judged or looked at like you're crazy because no matter what you are going through in your life you have to remember that you are never the only one. Never. If you haven't had the opportunity to join us at MOMS or think that because it's in a Church it's not for you I encourage you to go back and read some of my earlier blogs because I was the least Churchy person out there.
The countdown is on and I am looking very forward to our upcoming term. MOMS is for everyone and for those of you who have attended MOMS I want
to encourage you to think of one person in your life who needs MOMS and
start talking to them about it because the reality is, we all need
someone to talk to.
